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Rest Peacefully, Lost Faces

7/22/2014

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I recognize his face and gait, but what happened to the mangy hair? He's still scruffy, but his haircut looks like that of just a regular joe. In my head I called him Grizzly Alan, and I haven't seen him in more than a year. A smart fellow, about my age, clearly educated, and probably homeless. Today he's walking slowly past the bus stop on 45th, gaze lowered in thought.

"Hey, maaan," I call out. I pronounce "man" with emphasis, stretching out the vowel, giving it the weight of a proper name. Letting him know I recognize him. 
Jogged out of thought, he sees me and replies, "Oh, hey!"
"Haven't seen you in a while!"
"Yeah, you remember me."
"Of course. Good to see you're still hangin' around." Referring to his haircut: "I see you lost some hair!"
"Yeah, it works better at job interviews."
"How's that been goin'?"
"Aauuh," he says.
"Just okay?"
"Uuuuh."
"It's a process, right?"
"Yeah."
"I feel like it's a numbers thing. Apply for ten, hear back from one of 'em, you know?"
"Yeah," he says, pronouncing it as in, "that's true."
"Hey well. It's good to see you again."
"You too."
With urgency I added, "Stay strong!"

The faces come and go as the months turn to years. I'll be riding the ferry, taking in the horizon line, when the thought will surface: whatever happened to Juan and his new baby? Or Angel, with the bathrobe and bruises? Do you remember that face on Pine, outside the mall, the first-generation African man who for years never asked for money, but instead  stood yelling angrily about how Seattle Police are communist, and about how the Frye apartments evicted him? Did you ever see him on his "lunch break," where he would go and sit quietly inside Nordstrom, in complete opposition to the angry facade he projected on the sidewalk? I wonder about these faces, whole and real people, whom I now no longer see. Do they know I'm thinking of them?

Recently I was at the base, preparing to walk out to my bus. Several drivers were discussing a well-known passenger, Gaylen. An angry man surrounding a child inside, he could be an insufferable handful of epic proportions. The last time I saw him was a couple years ago.

"Gaylen? Oh, he's dead."
"What?" I said.
"Yeah, he's gone."
"Oh, that piece a shit? Man, I say good riddance," said a third driver. "That duu' got on my bus so many times, and I just wanted ta kick those crutches out from under him each time. What a' asshole."
"Aw, he's my buddy!" I said.
"He was, no, no. I couldn't stand that dude!"
"We'll just have to find some other assholes!" quipped a fourth, who'd been listening. They laughed. Part of me wanted to cry.

I gazed across the room at Vicki, a driver and former social worker with a heart of gold. She knew where I was coming from. We looked at each other ruefully. It wouldn't be any use trying to change their minds. I know they certainly couldn't change mine. 

My mind flashed back to an ancient moment from years ago. Venus, another driver, walked up to me, excited. "Nathan, there's this passenger who I actually really like, even though everyone hates him. His name is Gaylen, and he–"
"Has two crutches, yes I know! Venus, you're amazing!"

I'd heard horror stories about the guy but hadn't met him at the time of the conversation. Listening to Venus was an inspiration. She seemed thrilled in the sense of having come upon a secret; her vision didn't stop short at a reactionary appraisal, but kept going. She could see through the initial to a more complete picture, and in so doing had found something familiar in a man so outwardly different from her. Aren't we all the same, searching for happiness each in our own imperfect ways?

Mister Gaylen, I hope now you feel less pain, less occasion for hate, and perhaps the glimmer of a joy which eluded you in this life.
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Jesse
7/23/2014 08:01:21 am

Gaylen is gone? May God have mercy on him (as im sure he will). Most of what i remember of Gaylen came from riding the night owl 16 home with him. He really was not that bad, and sadly seemed not really sure what to do when someone was kind to him. Thank god i was able to give his poor feet a break for a few blocks every once in a while.

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Nathan
7/23/2014 11:29:55 am

The expansiveness of your heart is impressive- if I may say so!

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Paul Margolis
8/5/2014 04:18:09 pm

Without a doubt my favorite passenger of all time. He would step up to the doorway and squint, critically assessing the driver and the specific history they shared. 'PAUL!!!!!!!' He would yell! I will never forget it. I happily gave that guy a total of nearly 500 dollars cash. Another 300 in groceries and I. The end I would but him A pack of Salem 100 menthals and new crutch tips every time I saw him. I can't even count how many times that was. These days I think of him often while I am driving. I have fantasies of tracking down his grave. The. I get sad imagining the fate of a poor dead homeless man (homeless since 1979, the year I was born) I imagine finding that he was creamated and taking him home and putting him on the mantel with a pack of Salem 100's. Paul!!!!!!! I was always so happy to share a reciprocal glimmer of happiness with him. He was a better man than MOST Metro drivers.

I have not thought of the Seattle Police are Communists man in ages....

Nathan
8/8/2014 04:49:06 am

Paul-

A reciprocal glimmer of happiness- how excellent. You brought out the goodness in him, through your actions and way of treating him. To hear him tell me "have a good day," (actually the last thing he ever told me, now that I think of it), felt gigantic and earned. So glad he got to spend time with you while on this earth. No doubt it shaped his perception of life.

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